BrendaHubbard

What if before we became a mom or decided to take part in raising a child, we did not give birth? We are allowed to look at the job descriptions? And it looked like the one above or more outlined like the one below: 

Becoming a mom requirement and descriptions:

We are listing the following detailed descriptions to give you an idea, but these are not limited. More or less may be required of you. It all depends on your situation and how demanding the child you receive is.

-Extreme love and patience are required; you will be tested daily.

-You will give birth to a male or female child. You will learn their personality as they develop and go through seasons in life.

-You must love, nurture, and protect this child. But always remember whose child that is. 

And, I will be your Father, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.
2 Corinthians 6:18

-You will have to begin to guess what that human being wants and doesn’t want by simply reading his physical expressions and cries.

-Receiving advice from others can be helpful, but there is no guarantee it will work for your child. 

-You will be on a roller coaster of guessing what your child wants up until your child can verbally speak to you, which is not determined by a certain age, but we can say possibly by 1 or 2 years of age, they can give you better hints of their likes and dislikes. 

-As the child becomes a year older, they will outgrow things they enjoyed, and you will have to cater to their demands within reason. 

-You must teach them the way they should go.

-You are held accountable and judged if you steer this child down the wrong path if you know the right way you should be on. 

-Once you accept the job, there are no refunds or exchanges. 

-You will be better off raising this child only if you grow your relationship with the one who created this child from the depth of your womb and knows this child better than you. 

-The one who blessed you with this child can tell you precisely what to do each season and how to manage life events with this child. 

-The only requirement is to set a time out of your day to sit and talk with the one who created your child. 

Disclaimer:
Happiness, Joy, Excitement, Sadness, pride, being overwhelmed, Frustrations, Pain, Anger, heartaches, and tears are some of the side effects you will undergo but are not limited to when taking on this job. Once accepted, quitting is not permitted. Seek help from trusted individuals as you journey through the best and most challenging job ever created, getting the position of being a Mom. 

As I write this, I can’t help but think how incredible it would be to have something like this, mainly for those not desiring to be a mom. How much less hurt individuals would we have walking around this earth? We would exceed the allotted votes if it took votes and a signed petition. Even tho that sounds like the perfect world, it’s not because what faith would that take? I believe God did not send children descriptions of how to handle and raise them because we would not need to seek him or pray for help during the different stages of their lives. 

Seek the kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. Matthew 6:33. Meaning we can wholeheartedly chase after God daily, striving to do good every day, and he will provide us with everything we need. 

Tip number 1: After I became a Christian and started studying the Bible, I remember reading Matthew 6:33 and seeing it more. Still, it wasn’t until I remember hearing don’t just read the Bible but apply the verses to your life that my life started changing. There was evidence in my life that God was working things out for my good. Even tho, at times, it did not make sense. One way I began to put God first in my life was the same way we built a relationship with a new friend. Spend time with them. There was always something about the quiet and stillness of the early morning before my family woke up and started moving around the house that I loved. 

Every morning, I wake up early, preferably an hour or two before I get ready to work and begin my day. In my closet, I have a designated corner with an oversized bean bag to relax and spend time in Prayer, Reading my Bible, Worshipping, or reading a book on what I am interested in at the time. Mind you, some days I get this down, and it sets the foundation for my day, but other days I don’t hear my alarm go off, or I don’t get much sleep, causing me to oversleep past my desired time. But every day, I try to spend time with my God because it helps me to live a life of righteousness and thanksgiving while practicing the fruits of the spirit. Whoever pursues righteousness and unfailing love will find life, righteousness and honor. Proverbs 21:21

Tip number 2: Make time for me. What are some things that help fill up my battery? There are things I love to enjoy, like a delicious dessert, preferably ice cream—watching a movie. or reading and listening to a book I am interested in, to name a few. And Yes, I enjoy following along in an actual book while I hear the story in my ear from my audible app. But like a cheap charger, the battery life doesn’t last long until it needs to be filled again. That happens to me; those things help, and I enjoy them in the moment, but It does not last. I have discovered that nothing fills and sustains me like spending alone time in the word of God. After sending them home, he went up into the hills by himself to pray. Night fell while he was there alone. Matthew 14:23. Jesus showed us that even he took time away with his Heavenly Father to recharge. We are no different, and it is needed, especially with the demands of life. 

Tip number 3: You are the thermometer in your home. Yes, women of God, you control the temperature in your home. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” Proverbs 31:26-29. 

If you haven’t noticed, when we women are upset, sad, or not doing well, things in our homes get neglected, and the people in our homes walk around eggshells. Telling each other how mom is doing or let’s not do anything because mom is not well. I am addressing a mom, but this goes for a female overall. Why is that? We help set the environment. But it all starts with how we feel. Women are emotional beings moved by our deepest emotions and feelings. When we are happy, everything around us radiates goodness, but when we are not, it is like a gloomy cloud is hovering over us wherever we go. God created us to make everything we can influence better. Having a personal relationship with God and seeking him daily will help us do that.

Tip number 4: Teach by example. I have learned that whenever I want my husband and children to start incorporating something new, it has to start with me. I have to start eating better and cooking healthier options if I want them to begin considering what I have cooked and then move to the trying process. This is a food example, but this goes for any other habit I want to implement in my household. Eating, Exercising, Spirituality, Sleep schedules, and so many different practices must start with me and then begin the curiosity, followed by the trying process, seeing the benefits, and finally adapting the habit to everyone’s life.

 Replace bad habits with good habits slowly and be honest with family members, stating that you are working on changing habits for the better. Remind them that you could be better, and there could be days you might fall short of what you said you would do. Our priority in a home is to be a help mate to our husbands or help to build and edify our children and set the environment in our house so that love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control are continuously modeled in our home. 

Tip number 5: Set clear family goals/standards. What is a must in our home? As for me and my household we will serve the Lord. Joshua 25:15. One of the things that brought us together and has been the foundation of our family is prayer. Prayer and having a relationship with Jesus brought my husband and me from being two single, broken, divorced individuals declaring we would never marry again to now married, purchasing our first home together with no money down, and being blessed in ways we wouldn’t have imagined.

Prayer and growing our relationship with God is the foundation of our home. Is this perfect? No! And is everyone developing their relationship? No. But it is modeled, talked about, practiced, and encouraged. Another goal and standard in our home is to respect and love each other for who we are. This one is not easy, but it starts with my husband and me, and we pray our kids see the importance of these two fundamental principles. There are so many others I can name, but I wanted to focus on the two most important ones. I hope this helped stir something on the inside of you to be better, not just for yourself but for God and your family. 

Heavenly Father, I come before you, thanking you for the reader following along with these words that I have written that have been prayed for to you. I pray I’ve been able to shine light and magnify an area in their life that can be better with your help. I pray that this individual gets touched by you in some way. I pray they begin to see that you are good and willing to meet them exactly where they are in their life. I pray they can call on your name for strength and that you will be there to comfort and love them. I pray that they begin to discover that they have been created on purpose for a purpose. And that they are the light for someone else in their life. I pray you bless them, keep them, and guide them all the days of their life in Jesus’ Name, Amen.